A few weeks ago I attended a workshop with one of my mentors…
He believes there are only nine things that could hold you back from rising to the top in 2019.
Well, I’ll be honest…
He said there are ten things that could hold you back, but I’ve decided to share nine of them.
Being paralyzed by fear is first on the list.
Thinking but not taking action.
Being too comfortable with your present situation.
Acting from a state of desperation instead of working from a plan.
Being too concerned with the opinions of others.
Being obsessed with results instead of taking action.
Short term thinking instead of long term thinking.
Lack of belief in yourself and your vision.
I love the framework of potential stumbling blocks my mentor provided, because it’s easy to grasp.
…And the beautiful thing is that if you are feeling stuck right now I challenge you to review this list to see if any of these nine items apply to you. If so, address it, deal with it. Don’t let 2019 end up being just like 2018 unless you’re happy with how 2018 turned out.
I review this list weekly as I plan my next steps for promoting my book and working on my film.
Would love to hear what you’re struggling with. So please comment on this blog, and I’ll be sure to respond with tips to help you out.
That’s what my mentor, Dr. Afolabi Epega used to say. His Spirit follows me around everywhere I go, and that’s why I had to share some of his wisdom in my book, Meditations Across The King’s River.
Some Spirits never leave you alone. LoL!
The photo of Baba in this newsletter was taken when he was a very young man. Baba was a scientist as well as a fifth generation Ifa priest. He taught me the science and the art of Ifa divination.
And he died way too soon…
But his legacy and wisdom lives on. When Baba talks about keeping your doors open, he’s talking about relationships and friendships.
Pay close attention. His message applies to you — it applies to all of us.
Baba strongly felt we should not cling to people who want to leave us. “Never fight to stay in an unproductive relationship or friendship,” he said. If someone close to you wants to leave for any reason, by all means let her or him go. That’s right! Open your doors.
Here’s the thing.
By opening your doors, you make room for a new blessing, or a new relationship or friendship to enter your life. Blessings can’t enter a closed door.
Look! I know it’s not easy to let people go. But sometimes you have to, in order to grow. Like you, I’ve had to say goodbye to some folks. In many cases, I still love and miss them.
It’s painful at times, to be honest…
But then Baba’s words come back to me with clarity and warmth, and I realize that learning how to move on is one of the most important life lessons we all have to learn.
I would love to hear about your experiences in letting go…
So write me and I’ll be sure to write back as soon as time permits.
Until we talk again. All my love to you and your family!
That’s what my friend, Jewel Love, told me when we met for coffee in Oakland about two weeks ago.
Jewel is a therapist and the founder of Black Executive Men…
He’s also my accountability partner. We help each other stay on track professionally.
When we met for coffee, I was reminding him that less than two years ago we were sharing our dreams. He was hoping to build his private practice as a therapist, and I was telling him about my plans for launching my book Meditations Across The King’s River.
Today, Jewel’s business is booming, and my book has arrived in many homes around the world. We are both grateful.
Near the end of the second chapter of my book, I share strategies that help keep me focused each day.
But since 2019 is here, I just wanted to share a tip on goal setting. You don’t necessarily have to set new goals, but you absolutely must decide what goals are most important to you and focus on them.
Having too many goals is just as unwise as having zero goals.
Since Jewel is a gifted therapist, I’ve asked him to share three tips for coping with depression and anxiety as you navigate through 2019. Here’s what he suggested:
Therapy: Don’t be afraid to seek therapy, says Jewel, who’s specialty is psychotherapy. If you’re struggling emotionally from current or past wounds, meeting with a gifted therapist can help you heal.
Have a Wellness Practice: Meditate, walk in nature, eat a balanced diet, and stay away from toxic people who leave you feeling drained. Pick a wellness practice that resonates with you, and commit to doing it at least three times a week.
Share Your Gifts With The World: “Many people are depressed because they’re not living in alignment with their purpose and higher calling,” says Jewel. “As you give your creative gifts away, it will likely lessen the load in your own soul.”
This is all for now. To get more wellness tips from Jewel Love, sign up for his FREE newsletter at Black Executive Men.
Please know I will be here to guide you through 2019. Feel free to inbox me and share your goals for the new year. As you know, I always write back.
On behalf of my family and elders in Africa, I wish you and your family a prosperous, healthy and happy new year.
Thank you for supporting the launch of my book Meditations Across The King’s River.
Since we launched the book last weekend, copies have been shipped to countries around the world.
I am grateful for your support of this popular book.
My elders in Africa are working spiritually to get this book in the hands of as many people as possible…
If you didn’t get a chance to order Meditations Across The King’s River yet, you can do so by visiting acrossthekingsriver.com.
Even if you only embrace a few of the spiritual or financial strategies in this book, 2019 can be a better year for you. This book has sixteen essays and powerful affirmations.
In the chapter, Nigeria: Escape and Immersion, I talk about my spiritual journey to Africa with my son, but I also talk about something we all struggle with — and that something is loss.
Loss is painful but it’s part of the human journey; it’s one of the most difficult spiritual lessons to learn. But we all have to learn it.
Loss can come in many ways: death of a loved one, a relationship or friendship, but there are other forms loss.
I can relate to your feelings of loss because I’ve experienced loss too…
But here’s what I’ve learned, Paulette. On a spiritual level, the lessons of loss challenge us to appreciate each moment, and to appreciate who’s still in our life, even though we may still miss those who are not.
Loss also teaches us that like nature, everything in life follows cycles and patterns.
When something ends, a new beginning is on the way, and it can be beautiful even though it’s difficult.
If you’re struggling with loss or anything else, feel free to send me an email…
I’ll respond as soon as I can. I’m slightly behind on emails, but I try to make it a point to respond to all emails I receive.
Again, here’s the link for more information about my book which can be purchased at Balboa Press.com, Amazon and Barnes and Nobles, acrossthekingsriver.com.
Until we speak again, have a safe and wonderful holiday season with your family.
I’m getting ready to launch my book, Meditations Across The Kings River, in another week or less, and I wanted to let you know I’m grateful you are in my life.
Here’s the truth…
None of us can make it alone. We all need each other, more than we might want to admit at times.
As I share my spiritual journey in my book, I also share strategies to help you on your goals of wellness in 2019: spiritual wellness, emotional wellness, and financial wellness.
Like I said, we have your back…
Plus, every week, I’ll be sharing additional insights that I didn’t have time or space to include in the book. If you implement some of these strategies, you’ll be rocking and rolling in 2019.
The cover of my book was designed by one of the great artists of our times. His name is Mark “Feijao” Milligan.
Feijao grew up across the street from me on the island of St. Croix, but we only met a few years ago because he’s younger than I am.
The cover of my book has great spiritual significance. The golden halos around the heads of the children and the elder indicate these are visitors from the Other World, yet they are also from this world.
I’m also from another world, and so are you. We are all spirits on a mission, and we can and should learn from each other.
The elder is also significant. He has to guide and protect these explorers to make sure they get where they are going. He can’t afford to let them drift off course.
Someone you can’t see is guiding and protecting you. His/her job isn’t necessarily to give you what you want. An elder, or the ancestors, look at the big picture of your life — they need to make sure you stay on track and in alignment with your mission.
If you look back at your life a few years from now, it will become clear to you why certain things happened the way it did. You’ll even figure out why some people had to leave and why some people had to come into your life.
Your spirit guides have High Intelligence, and are experts in their field.
There’s a beautiful plan for you. Don’t get discouraged. You are in good hands. Be confident. Straighten your back. Keep your head up at all times.
I have to run because I am finalizing things for the book launch next week. I know you’ll love Meditations Across The King’s River.
I speak to you from my heart — not from things I’ve read in a book, but from things I’ve experienced — blood, sweat, tears and faith.
You see, back in 2003 when I was being initiated into the Ifa spiritual tradition — my spiritual godfather, Aseda — the elder in this picture, told me I would write a book one day.
Well, 2003 was 15 years ago. To most people, 15 years is a long time, but to the Spirit world, 15 years is no time at all — it’s not even the blink of an eye.
As you know, my book Meditations Across The King’s River will be published in December. I’m excited about the book and all the spiritual lessons and affirmations I’ll be sharing with you.
In order for me to write a powerful book, I had to have certain experiences. Most of these experiences did not happen overnight. They happened over a long period of time. Spiritual growth is not a race.
Time worked in my favor.
And guess what? I believe time can work in your favor too.
Our society sends us a dangerous message 24/7. It makes us think that everything we aspire to achieve should happen right away, and if it doesn’t happen right away, then something must be wrong with our vision or with us.
Well, that’s a lie, and you shouldn’t fall for it…
Your season will come when it’s meant to come. Just like you can’t plant tomatoes in the winter and expect them to grow in the snow, every vision Spirit gives us must bloom in the right season.
It’s spiritual law, my friend, not man’s law…
Every house needs a strong foundation. Every vision needs a strong foundation too. Your ancestors are trying to lay a strong foundation for you.
And they will also ensure you have all the experience you need. It’s a process — not an overnight job.
Our challenge is to step back and look at our lives from a larger perspective — God’s perspective. Trust the process; continue to have faith despite all the challenges you’ve been facing.
I was invited to speak about my upcoming book in San Francisco a few weeks ago.
I told them the truth — 100% of it.
You see, I could have only said that Meditations Across The King’s River will be published this month because I sat down one day and decided to write a book.
But I told them the whole story — about how my son was in a dangerous gang in 2002 and how it almost destroyed my family.
It wasn’t pretty back in those days; it was a matter of life or death.
Fortunately, I took my son with me to Nigeria in 2003 when I went for my initiation into the Ifa spiritual tradition and my elders helped heal my son.
My kids Malcolm and Tulani
A few months after our trip to Africa, my son’s psychologist said: “I don’t know what happened in Africa, but your son is new and improved.”
I share this story in Meditations Across The King’s River, and I share other powerful stories based on my travels throughout Africa and the Caribbean; plus there are tons of my original spiritual affirmations too…
Flowers can bloom in tough places…
No one on earth can tell me miracles don’t happen because I see a miracle every time I look at my son, Malcolm. (That’s him in this picture above with my daughter, Tulani).
I know miracles can happen for you. Trust me, miracles happen every single day on planet earth, and you must never rule out the possibility that a miracle can happen for you.
These days, Malcolm is a successful businessman and a dedicated father of four children. He’s also a basketball coach and goes out of his way to help others all the time.
My book might have never happened if I didn’t have a problem with my son back in 2002.
Our crisis created a divinely led chain of events that led to beautiful things. In fact, you can even say that my son led me to you. (How cool is that?)
As you think of your own challenges, don’t just think about WHAT your problems are — think about WHERE your problems are leading you to and/or WHO they’re leading you to.
And remember, your ancestors and spirit guides are doing their best to help you. They have more faith in you than you have in yourself. You are not alone even when you feel alone.
Right this minute, powerful souls are working on your behalf. Meet them halfway with faith, dedication and daily consistent action to manifest your dreams. 2019 is right around the corner — make a plan — don’t make excuses.
I have to run because Malcolm is coaching a basketball game today and I promised I would come to watch his team in action. They are on a winning streak. I’ve got to be there.
Talk soon! Meditations Across The King’s River will be here soon.
No one can. At some point you’re going to need help for one reason or another.
And with that help, you can propel your life to a whole new level.
If you’re feeling stuck, or lost, or alone, I hope what I’m saying sinks deep in your soul. I’m speaking to you with full confidence based on what my spiritual journey continues to teach me.
As you know, my book, Meditations Across The King’s River: African-Inspired Wisdom For Life’s Journey, will be published in a few weeks, in early December.
Looking back at the journey of this book, I realize my ancestors sent key people to help and inspire me at strategic points along the way.
One of them is Omitola, and she’s one of the characters you’ll get to meet and learn from in my book. Omitola has a degree in Cultural Resistance.
She also happens to be an activist.
I met her in Guadeloupe in December, 2016. I went there to do a spiritual ceremony for her, and she introduced me to her culture. Going to Guadeloupe and meeting her was the catalyst for this book.
After my visit, it became clear to meexactly how I wanted to write the book. Without Omitola’s help, Meditations Across The King’s River would be a different book. I’m grateful my ancestors allowed us to meet when we did.
I can’t tell you who will come into your life, or when, or even why…
But I know someone will come at some point.
Some of the people that will help you fulfill your destiny might already be in your life — but it takes time for the ancestors to set things up and manifest them on a spiritual level.
Divine timing is a powerful force, and it’s very real. Divine timing is playing out in your life right this very instant. Don’t worry about the big picture; it will be revealed to you when the time is right.
The most important thing you can do right now is:1. Follow your inspiration wherever it leads. 2. Be dedicated to your dream. 3. Don’t allow others or life to distract you from the path you feel inspired to walk.
In order for others to commit to helping you, the first person you must convince to get on board is yourself. When others sense your commitment and determination, in time the right folks will step aboard.
That’s what continues to happen for me. The journey toward a more fulfilling and empowering life isn’t just for some of us — it’s for all of us. I hope you are open to it, and I am here to support you.
I promised I would be in touch each week until we launch this book and I intend to keep my promise. Each day brings us closer and closer to the publication of Meditations Across The King’s River.
If you respond to this blog, I will definitely write you back.
Sending you warm thoughts and good energy. I look forward to connecting with you again soon.